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Beltane to Midsummer - the season of love
by Judy Harrow
Beltane is one of our most sacred festivals. Beltane is lusty,
bawdy, even vulgar. Joyous, raunchy Beltane, while the life energy
is still rising, and nearing its peak, is the happiest day of
our ritual year. Beltane is for lovers. Go on, get sweaty with
your sweetie. It's not just permissible, it's an act of worship
to the most high Gods.
Is this about sex? You betcha! Is this about procreative sex,
the sacred union of male and female to bring forth new life? Sure
is! Is this only about procreative sex? Hell, no! All acts of
love and pleasure are Her rituals. Procreative heterosex is just
one kind of sex. Sex itself is just one happy possibility. Another
equally-blessed way to celebrate Spring is to take your favorite
niece to ride a carousel.
During happy, flowery May and June, play with your best friends.
Too often, in our lives, we give our closest attention to the
problem areas. As much as you can, give that a rest. There are
other seasons for the heavy confrontations, the working through
of old issues, the processing of the process. For now, just take
some time to enjoy -- and reinforce -- all those loves and friendships
that are working (and possibly dust off a few that have been neglected
while you greased various squeaky wheels.)
The spring winds may also move you to offer random acts of kindness
and senseless beauty to total strangers. That's fine, follow your
bliss. Here are some ways to enjoy love and pleasure during the
extravagant late Spring:
- Let love and pleasure overflow from deep within yourself.
Spend an evening in long, slow masturbation. Clean and adorn your
bedroom as though you were expecting your favorite lover. You
may even want to buy new bed-linens. Take a long, slow, scented
bath. Anoint yourself with your favorite essential oil or perfume.
(Caution: always test first for allergies. Many
essential oils are corrosive or toxic if applied without dilution
in a carrier oil. Try 1:3 in olive oil or canola.) Do exactly
what you like, and also experiment to discover more things you
like. Do not rush. Try to do this once a week during the season
- Have you noticed that Mother's Day and Father's Day both fall
within this season? By all means, celebrate your birth parents
and grandparents and enjoy what your children do for you. Many
of us also have elders and mentors who are not blood kin, in and
out of the Craft. Acknowledge them as well.
- Send a surprise gift to someone you love or respect. They
will find it so much more remarkable now, far away from Yule's
- Try a trust walk. In this, one person is blindfolded, and
then guided by one or more other people. They keep the blindfolded
person safe, but that's just the start of what they do. They also
guide the person to delightful experiences that do not require
sight. This works well as a coven activity, but it's equally intense
if done among lovers in their own special place.
- Have sex with your lover(s). Lots of it. Try a new position.
Do it on a different piece of furniture. Go to a sex toy store
together and giggle a lot. Or go separately and surprise each
other with what you bring home. Have sex again. Slower. More.
Lovingly bathe and massage each other. Make foreplay an art form.
Please make your sex both joyful and safe for all parties.
Consensus, consideration and respect should never be passed over
in the throes of passion.
- Take a child to the zoo, or the circus, or just go fly a kite!
It's important for parents, who work so hard to support and teach
their children, to also enjoy those kids. Go out and play! This
may be even more important for those of us who are not parents.
We don't see our nephews, nieces, godkids every day. We need some
exposure to the wonder and innocence of childhood.
- Sometime, when you're home before your spouse or lover, greet
them with flowers, candles, wine and yourself in a very sexy outfit.
- Is there a friend you've been missing? Perhaps you moved,
changed jobs, changed covens? Now you have to make a conscious
effort to see each other and, well, you know how busy and stressed
most of us are. Pick up the phone. Schedule a get-together if
you can. At least, send a note or a card. Let him or her know
how you feel.
- In a trusting group, try a "tribal love feast."
These are the rules: everyone bring finger food to share (be liberal,
chocolate pudding is finger food). Set out the food picnic-style
on a cloth on the floor. Recline on cushions. Nobody may put food
into their own mouth. Nobody may put food into the same mouth
twice. No talking. (The group decides in advance whether this
may or may not develop into group sex. It doesn't have to.)
- Work through the Masters and Johnson sensate focus exercises
with your lover(s). If you don't know what these are, find out.
- Go to a really good, substantial movie or play with a friend,
or a small group. Or agree to read the same substantial book.
Afterwards, talk about it. Rediscover your pleasure in the exchange
of ideas, the working of another mind.
- Spend some time with close friends and lovers without speaking.
Perhaps go for a walk in a beautiful place, stopping frequently
to point out lovely sights, textures or sounds. Or listen (and
stretch, move and dance) to music without lyrics. Or cook a meal
together in silence, feeling into the tastes, smells and textures
of the food (choose the menu and shop in advance). Experiment
with doing this with one other person at a time, or with your
coven or other small and trusted group.
written by: Judy
updated: January 19, 2000; © 1998, 2000, by Judy Harrow
the address of this page is: proteuscoven.com/Season-5.htm
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Walking our Talk:
the Seasons between the Sabbats.
or off site to visit Wychwood Temple, where you will find Doug and
Kopf's excellent essay on the
folklore of Midsummer
or begin again at Proteus Home or Library